There once was a boy who wanted to sing. When he was very small, and I mean VERY small, he heard the birds singing and, as he was too small to talk, he thought, “That’s lovely - I want to do that” and he gurgled happily.

Time passed and he grew a bit bigger and, when he was by himself in the garden, he used to join in with the birds and that made him very happy. One day, while he was happily singing to himself and playing in the garden, his big sister passed by and said, “Stop that. That sounds silly.”

“But I like to sing,” said the boy, “it’s what I love to do most.”

“Well don’t,” said his nasty sister. “You’re not a singer. Only singers sing and people will only laugh at you.”

“But I want to be a singer - that’s all I want to be.” He said.

“Well you’re not and you never will be. I’m bigger than you and so I know better.” said the boy’s sister, horribly.

The boy was sad.

He went to school and learnt to read and write and learnt to add and subtract and even how to divide and multiply and was very good at them all - actually, his writing was always a bit messy. He had a secret though and that was that he still wanted to be a singer and when he was by himself he would sing and was happy then. Walking home from school, across the golf course, he would sing beautifully - but only when there was no one else there.

At night, when all the family were watching ‘Coronation Street’, he would sit in the kitchen and listen to songs the radio (it used to be called the wireless - even though it had a wire and a plug but this is not the story so forget about that). Sometimes, if he knew the song on the wireless and if the telly was turned up loud enough so he wouldn’t be heard, he’d join in and sing along.

One day, his mother asked him what he wanted to be when grew up and he told her his ’secret’.

His mother was kind and told him that he should really think about doing something else - maybe plumbing - because you’d have to be really, really good at singing to do it for a job. She did ask him to sing though but he got embarrassed and put his head down and said, “Not yet.”

One day, at school, the teacher told the class that they were going to start a choir and went round the class, listening to the children singing a scale, one at a time - ah ah ah ah ah ah ah ah. “This is my chance to get it right.” The boy thought and he wanted to so much, he wanted to too much and, when it was his turn, he tried hard, he tried too hard and, while he didn’t actually turn into one, he sounded awfully like a frog.

“No. No good.” Said the teacher and the boy was sad and all the way home from school he sang, “ah ah ah ah ah ah ah ah.” - beautifully - by himself.

He grew up with his secret, listening to songs on the radio. He was very exited when he heard a band that was from near where he lived. He heard them more and more. He read about them in the papers and saw them on the television too and he watched them become world famous. Encouraged, he saved and bought an old guitar and tried to learn how to play it. One day, he was going to be a singer - he knew it.

He grew up, finished school and got a job taking photographs and he was good at it too. He met a beautiful girl, his Princess. They got married and had three children. They were a very happy family and when the, now grown up boy was on his own - in the shower or driving in his car - he would still sing but because being a Daddy is quite a lot of work, he didn’t think too much about being a singer any more.

When his children were growing up, he tried to teach them that they could be whatever they wanted to be. He told them that if they believed in themselves, they could do anything they wanted to. The oldest wanted to be an astronaut - his friends said that was silly but he knew his dad said he could be if he believed it. He’s an astronaut now by the way. His brother is an artist and the baby, his sister is a famous ballerina - but that’s jumping way past the end of the story.

Sometimes, even while they were a happy family, the Daddy would feel a bit sad because he knew that there was something missing. One day, the Mammy asked him what was wrong and he told her that, while he loved taking photographs - it wasn’t what he wanted to do - all his life.

“What do you want to do?” she asked him.

He told her his secret. “I want to sing - maybe even make up my own songs and sing them”

“Oh, don’t be silly.” She said, “You can’t sing, you’re not very good at the guitar and you don’t even write postcards! Why don’t you just be happy being a photographer?”

The Daddy got sadder.

More time passed and the children grew up. The Daddy still used to sing - in the bath and in his car and the Mammy remembered her dream was to be an actress and became one and one day the Mammy and the Daddy knew that they couldn’t live happily ever after together anymore and so the, much older, boy went to live somewhere else.

He was lonely but his guitar was a good friend and he spent a lot of time playing it and singing by himself.

One day, he was singing so loud that he didn’t hear a knock on the door. The man knocking was from Africa and was knocking at the wrong door but he knocked again - a bit louder. When he knocked the third time, the boy (we’ll still call him that) heard and answered.

Dembe Sowe was as black as coal and as tall as a tree. His hands were as big as feet and his feet were like skis. He stood at the door in his rainbow coloured coat with a drum on his shoulder and asked, “Dat you makin’ dat sound? Is good man.”

He was looking for some people who used to live on the street and who’d said, “Come and stay with us if you ever come to Ireland.” He came in and had a cup of strong coffee and talked with the boy for hours.

The boy told his story and how he couldn’t sing when anybody was listening and Dembe thought a while and then said, “You know, in Africa, everybody sings. We don’t think, ‘am I a good singer? am I a bad singer?’ We just sing - all the time”

He explained that in most African languages, you couldn’t say, “I am a singer, or I am a builder or a photographer.”

“This is because ‘I am’ means ‘I am’ and nothing else. We say, ‘I make pictures’ or ‘I build’ or ‘I sing’ and everybody does their best and enjoys it. You want to sing, so sing - I like to hear you sing and other people will too. Bring your guitar onto the street and some people will listen and enjoy and some won’t but follow your heart man - follow your dreams and be YOU - that is what is important. When you do that, then you are on the right road for you and you can only do good.”

Dembe stayed for a few days and drank an awful lot of coffee - strong and black. He said that he needed it to stay as black as he was.

The boy heard what he said and, a few weeks later, nervously brought his guitar to the city and sang - sang his best and loved it. Nobody told him he was silly and some people even gave him money.

A few weeks later, he wrote a song - about following your heart and then another and another, and in less than a year, he’d made a record and made lots of friend who love music, and even travelled to Africa to thank Dembe Sowe for his advice.

These days, he’s a little bit famous and will pass on Dembe’s advice to anyone who’ll listen. He’s pretty happy, most of the time and writing songs and stories. He even wrote this story and maybe he’ll live happily ever after, after all.

I love being a grandmother to my seven grandsons.  I told someone I felt like Snow White and her seven dwarves except that the forest creatures don’t help with the housework!

When I spend time with my little men, each moment with them is special.  One of ours has problems with auditory processing and struggles with expressing himself.  But our precious Michael has come a long long way.  The last time we spent the weekend, his Papa treated the crew to breakfast at the Waffle House (their choice).  Amid chocolate chip waffles and chocolate milk Michael indicated he wanted to tell me a secret.  I bent over so that he could whisper, “You are the best Mimi in the whole wide world!”

Moments like these are short lived.  The next time I visit, Michael may hug me or possibly walk past me without a word.  No matter.  For the first time I truly understand what the scriptures say about Mary -  that she treasured up events in her heart.”  Photographs, videos, and recordings are wonderful but I find that the heart is the best keeper of memories. 

 - Mimi aka Sheila Hudson

Back in the summer, my old job was replaced by software, and budget cuts did not allow my boss to keep me on.  I am 57 years old—nearly unemployable if you read the age-ist warnings on the internet, but I was hired by people decades younger than me. My immediate boss and the CEO are both young enough to be my children, if I had started as early as my mom did, and it’s interesting working for GenX people.

They are refreshing. They have new ideas. They are willing to work together and share both workload and credit for tasks accomplished. While there are always challenges and lots of work to be done, especially in a small office, there is respect and willingness to learn. There is a motivation to try out new ideas without the fear that something might not work. Some of my coworkers are even GenY, younger than my daughter. These people are professional, enthusiastic and focused—not like the often cynical and jaded Boomers I left behind.

As the new web designer. I am the only person on staff who has my level of knowledge and experience, and while I have several college degrees, the skills I use on the job are self-taught. I am using all my previous skills in web coding and photo-editing, and I am learning how to schedule in all the various mailings and postings needed to keep our name popping up in the search engines. I am learning how to work on a team, taking input from others, and compromising to get the best way to deliver a message to our current and potential students.

Every day I learn something new, especially about the social media sites such as facebook and twitter. My office mates and I share what we have learned, and even keep in touch with our tweets and our eco-gift facebook applications. We are modeling the social group that we wish to attract to our college as students—bright, connected people who want to be chiropractors.

I have experience to offer along with my skills, but the true gift I have been given is the change to learn new things, to see work in a different light, and to be part of the “girls” in the office. Though I feel like a grandmother when my boss and our VP talk about their toddlers, what a gift it is to remember those days and to know that they can be survived!

When I was faced with the non-renewal of my contract, I was terrified, but the transition has been just the next step I needed to take. I have seen over the years that even when I know it’s time to move on, I am too afraid to do it. But the Universe always gives me just the right kind of nudge, and when I listen, the outcome is always worth the risk.